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August 05, 2004
My Big Brother Rex
Air , Family , Friends , Health

No, he's not really my brother, but he might as well be. He has been my best friend and big brother for about eight years now. I made mention of his accident at the end of my last post, but now I have finally talked to him and have details so I'm catching you up.

About a week ago while Rex was driving in a 45 mph zone, some one going the other direction swerved and hit him head on at 90 mph. There is speculation it was a drunk driver, but I really don't know much about this end of things yet.

The injury list has been given to me at a few different levels, and truthfully I'm a bit dazed and don't really remember it all. I know he broke both legs in several places (one I know was turned all the way sideways at one point) as well as his femur (I think thats his foot/ankle) and his right knee. There are other scrapes and things but no internal damage and for that I'm ever so thankful.

In the past week he has undergone 3 separate surgeries with a day recovery between each one. Through all of this he is still in good spirits and even though he is in a lot of pain he is being stronger and better about this than I think I could ever hope to be.

I find myself being mad at the world. Besides Rex's accident and my stomach problem (which is ever so minimal in comparison to everything else), we have had the death's of Kevin's father and grandmother in the last year, my sister has been having problems with her uterus, Kevin's cousin Steve's wife Susan had complications with her pregnancy (luckily everything turned out fine), my friend Ryan has two friends who recently lost babies though.

My friend DanaMarie's mother had some pre-cancerous growths removed from her colon and while that went well she seems to now have an infection in her diaphragm, in addition her cousin Tara has been diagnosed with cancer in her uterus. And to top it all off this weekend one of our friends Mark had a rare accident where the spark plug popped out of his car and set it on fire; even rarer was the fact that it didn't explode, he was fine. However Krissy's boyfriend Noah was not as lucky as the other day a car cut him off on his motorcycle and he was forced into the the center concrete barrier. Like Rex he is also currently in the hospital. He had surgery on his ankle and is in a lot of pain but should be going home and starting rehab possibly tomorrow.

All of this stuff has happened in the last year. About 95% of it happened in the last two or three months. Its driving me nuts, I'm pissed at the world, I'm worried about all of my friends and family, I've even been a little scared while driving.

Everyone in the world is too negative lately, there is too much bad energy floating around. I'm scared and worried, but I'm working on turning it around. I need to think good thoughts and send good energy everywhere I can. Please, if you find yourself being upset or reckless or stressed, take a moment and think about someone you love, some moment of happiness, something good and send a little good energy into the world. I know its all cheesy and stuff, but I can't take any more of these things happening, and no one else should have to either. Also send Rex and the rest of the people I've talked about here and everyone you know some good thoughts. They will all appreciate it.

I'm ending this post now, and knowing that a lot of my past posts have been sad, depressed or dismal in some way I am now making a conscious effort for my posts for the next few weeks to be upbeat and fun. Stay tuned...


I'm sorry to hear about your friend Rex. The femur is the long bone in the leg which makes it a serious break.

Life is a series of both ups and downs. You can focus on whatever you choose to. I tend to focus on the middles because my ups and my downs are too painful.

Posted by: Alek at August 5, 2004 12:49 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about Rex. It does seem a rash of these have been going around people we know or with whom we are connected in some way.

Noah is home now (today) and doing pretty well. He gets to concentrate on resting and healing for the next few weeks, but should be fine afterwards with some light physical therapy.

Posted by: Christyn at August 5, 2004 03:04 PM

Having been involved in an accident two years ago (we were t-boned by a drunk driver), I can only wish your friends Rex and Noah the best of luck and a speedy recovery. It took two weeks for my bruising to heal before I was even aware of my most major injuries (neck and back). It's been two years of PT and now it looks like surgery (if I can get the insurance company to pay). There are so many complications in life as it is, we don't need these outside incidents to affect us. But they do and all you can do is to put your best foot forward every day and continue on.

Btw, Rachel. Your photos have helped me heal by showing that there is still beauty in the world.

So thank you.

Posted by: John Frost at August 5, 2004 07:52 PM

Rex is lucky is some ways in that he will be going into a rehab center for two weeks a believe, so he will get immediate intense physical therapy. He had to have 3 surgeries, but those are all past him now too. They are saying its going to take him 4 months for initial recovery.

I'm very sorry about your accident too. Insurance is evil, I hope they come through for you and that they can fix you up. You are right, we don't need these outside problems but we are stuck with them. And we do just have to keep going and I will. I'm just feeling so dazed... I've dealt with a things like this before, but never have I dealt with so many at once. I'm confused and I don't know what to do.

*sighs* thank you for the compliment, my photography is part of my healing too. With the camera in my hand I'm not quite as scared as I am otherwise.

Posted by: rachel at August 5, 2004 09:01 PM

Btw: rex is doing much better. Still in the hospital he is in better and better spirits. Now on less drugs he sounds much better and he is starting to move one of his legs on his own.

Onward and upward.

Posted by: rachel at August 11, 2004 10:08 AM
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